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Prayer to a teen girl...
My Precious Daughter,
Before the foundation of the world, I knew I was going to create you to be fearfully and wonderfully made, and you are! I placed you in your mother's womb and have ordained all of your days. I have chosen for you to live in this generation because you have been born for such a time as this.
As the world is now acknowledging you as young woman, so am I. You'll always be my little girl that I have taken such joy in and are the apple of my eye. Feel free to con-tinue, as you did when you were a little girl, to come into my presence seeking my love and protection, which I will always show and provide for you, because you are mine!
I delight in your beauty both within and without. I chose you to be a woman because you reflect many of my character traits shown through your spirit of kindness, compas-sion and you have my intuitive spirit.
My mercy and compassion for you is new every day. I love it when you awake and I am the first one you greet. I always love it when you choose to be in my presence and I de-light in answering your prayers according to the plans I have made for you that will be accompanied with hope.
I want you to fully put your trust in me because I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. When you seek me and my will I will take care of all of your needs. Watch me supply all of your needs according to my endless riches in heaven.
I desire for you to experience the joy of walking in my divine grace and favor and that as you draw your strength from my unlimited power you have more than you need to excel in all that you have been called by me to accomplish. I have not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind because of your choice to embrace my son, and your savior, Jesus Christ into your life.
Remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthen you. When you give generously, as a Princess will be called to do, my blessings will be pressed down, shaken to-gether and overflowing back to you. Test Me and see if I won't throw open the floodgates of heaven, pouring out so much blessing that you wouldn't be able to contain it. I am more than able to provide all of your needs according to my unlimited riches in glory.
I will be there when you have moments of disappointment and doubt bringing you hope and healing because I am near to the brokenhearted. It is my deepest desire for you to be blessed all the days of your life as you embrace the Holy Spirit, that I have given you to dwell within you until you and I meet face-to-face one day in the place I have prepared for you here in Heaven.
Remember, I will never leave you nor forsake you. My love for you will endure for-ever. I delight in answering your prayers. Be assured I will never forget anything you ask of me – I will answer with my very best in my perfect timing for you.
Oh my precious and beautiful Daughter I am looking forward to all that you are ex-perience as woman and my Princess in the years to come. I delight in knowing that as you make your plans I am going to be watching every step and I will be rejoicing over with you singing as you fulfill your passion and purpose of your life.
Let's celebrate and stay in step together as you embark in this amazing exciting adventure called life.
With all my love,
Your trustworthy, faithful and loving Daddy,
your Papa, your Heavenly Father
exerpt from Becoming a Modern-Day Princess Journal
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31 Ways to Pray for our Youth:
1. Pray for a Spirit of REVERENCE The fear of the Lord Prov 9:10
2. Pray for a Spirit of HUMILITY A willingness to submit Eph 4:2
3. Pray for a Spirit of PURITY A desire to be clean Matt 5:8
4. Pray for a Spirit of PURPOSE The wisdom to set goals Prov 4:25-27
5. Pray for a Spirit of SIMPLICITY A life style uncluttered 1 Cor 14:40
6. Pray for a Spirit of COMMITMENT A dedication to the cause Josh 24:15
7. Pray for a Spirit of DILIGENCE A willingness to work hard Col 3:23
8. Pray for a Spirit of SERVANTHOOD A willingness to help others Gal 6:9-10
9. Pray for a Spirit of CONSTANCY The quality of faithfulness Ps 119:33
10. Pray for a Spirit of ASSURANCE A depth of faith 1 John 5:13
11. Pray for a Spirit of AVAILABILITY A readiness to go Isaiah 6:8
12. Pray for a Spirit of LOYALTY A zeal for fidelity Ruth 1:16
13. Pray for a Spirit of DISCERNMENT A perception of wrong Col 2:8
14. Pray for a Spirit of COMPASSION Love in action Col 3:2
15. Pray for a Spirit of THANKFULNESS A heart of gratitude Col 3:17
16. Pray for a Spirit of MATURITY The capacity to grow Heb 5:14
17. Pray for a Spirit of HOLINESS Christ like behavior Acts 24:16
18. Pray for a Spirit of RELIABILITY A depth of dependability 1 Cor 4:2
19. Pray for a Spirit of REVELATION To know God better Eph 1:17
20. Pray for a Spirit of DENIAL A sacrifice to surrender Luke 9:23
21. Pray for a Spirit of CONFIDENCE An assurance of competence Phil 4:13
22. Pray for a Spirit of INTEGRITY the quality of uprightness Rom 12:17
23. Pray for a Spirit of REPENTANCE A willingness to change Ezk 18:30b-31
24. Pray for a Spirit of TRUST A steadfast belief Psalm 125:1
25. Pray for a Spirit of SUBMISSION Choosing to yield 1Peter 2:13-14,17
26. Pray for a Spirit of TEACHABILITY Learning from others Prov 6:20
27. Pray for a Spirit of PRAYER being persistent Luke 18:1
28. Pray for a Spirit of UNITY a respect for others Ps 133:1
29. Pray for a Spirit of THRUTHFULNESS Delighting in honesty Prov 12:22
30. Pray for a Spirit of FORGIVENESS An ability to show grace Eph 4:32
31. Pray for a Spirit of GENEROSITY The desire to give Heb 13:16i
(Excerpt from Got Teens? (Harvest House) by Jill Savage and Pam Farrel
i. Adapted by Moms in Touch from Dick Eastman, President, Every Home For Christ, © 1988, Used by permission
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Personalizing Prayer for your Teen
One of our favorite ways to pray is to pray Scripture, personalizing it for the child I am praying for. There are a couple of ways to do this. One is very simple. Just choose a portion of Scripture (the psalms work well) that hits some of the areas you are concerned for your son or daughter.
For example, the night before Brock's football games in high school, I (Pam) would pray a section of Psalm 91 over Brock. I simply would pray as I scratched his back, or with just my hand on his shoulder, whatever seemed most natural at the moment. Here's a portion of a personalized version of Psalm 91:
Brock, who dwells in the shelter of the Most High, will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Brock will say of the Lord, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust." Surely God will save you from the fowler's snare and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover Brock with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be Brock's shield and rampart.…If Brock makes the Most High his dwelling—even the Lord, who is your refuge—then no harm will befall you, no disaster will come near your tent. For he will command his angels concerning you, Brock, to guard you in all your ways.…"Because Brock loves me," says the Lord, "I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him."
The other option is to create a composite of verses that fortifies an area of weakness. If you have a concordance, you can look up verses by finding key words that might be in the verse in that subject area. For example, all of my children have been afraid of the dark or have had nightmares. I have taught them how to take their stand in Christ and say, "In the name of Jesus and His shed blood on the cross, I command any evil spirits be silenced and sent away." Then I encourage them to pray the truth about God's power, victory, and ability to overcome (inserting their name in the blanks):
You, dear______, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world (1 John 4:4). For he has rescued ______ from the dominion of darkness and brought ______ into the kingdom of the Son he loves (Colossians 1:13). "I have told you these things, so that in me you may
have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). I write to ______, because you are strong, and the word of God lives in you, and you have overcome the evil one (1 John 2:14). With God we will gain the victory, and he will trample down our enemies (Psalm 108:13). But thanks be to God! He gives ______ the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:57). Everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith (1 John 5:4).
Excerpt from 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make by Pam and Bill Farrel
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Church and Family
Be on the Same Team for the Teen
What are some ways to build a bridge between your child and your family and the youth pastor or youth staff?
Be interested: Register early. If there is an activity or event, respond. Act interested, volunteer to help spread the word by contacting other parents. Be on their team!
Be on the Team: Ask what you can do to help: bring cookies, offer to drive, man the registration or check in table, etc. Small things add up in a big way! Offer to be a part of the youth volunteer staff. Ask your son or daughter first to make sure he or she is comfortable with you volunteering in this way. They might not be excited about you being their Sunday School teacher but perhaps you could mentor or teach the group just younger or older than they are. The youth pastor often has to staff Jr high, high school and college positions. Just being involved with those near your child's age will help you tune into his or her world.
Be a friend: Try to make the youth pastor's life a little easier. Most youth pastors have a pretty limited salary so coupons for movies meals, or car repair go a long way in showing appreciation. If he or she is also the parent of young children, offer to baby sit so he or she can spend time on a youth event, with your child, or go on a date with his/her spouse.
Be alert: As a parent, you might know the inside scoop on happenings at the local public school, in the neighborhood or about the family of a problem child. You'll want to keep confidences, but you might also be comfortable being a liaison between youth pastor and a new family in the church because maybe they have been your friends longer.
Be prayerful: Youth work is a battle zone. Everyone in the ministry is on the front lines and the evil one wants to wipe them out. Offer to pray for the youth pastor, his/her staff, and his/her family.
Be assertive: If you are new to a church, invite the youth pastor and his family over for a meal, or offer to pay for him/her to take your child out for a soda or burger. Don't think you have to only build a bridge with the youth pastor, often there is someone on volunteer staff that might better connect or have more time to give personal attention to your tween, teen or young adult. Ask other mothers who on youth staff likes some of the
things your child likes. One of my friends had a son who surfs with a youth worker, my boys share a love of football with some youth workers, for others it is music or drama. It may be something not very spiritual like Star Trek or skateboarding. It may be least threatening for a youth worker to show up at the game on Friday night and you can introduce him or her to your teen and his/her peer group or better yet, ask another teen to
introduce the youth worker to your child.
Be encouraging. If your son or daughter has a gift that can be used to serve in the church, encourage them to use it. If they are musical and old enough to be a part of the worship team, encourage them to serve musically. If they enjoy children and can assist in Sunday school during one service on Sunday morning, encourage them to give of their time and energy. This may connect them to other church leadership that can also encourage,
influence, and serve as a mentor to your teen.
Be an investigator: As your college student moves away to school, you might have to help your student find churches, mentors, and on campus groups to be a part of. A good place to start to locate a church or on campus group is the Internet. Research churches then call and ask them to send a sample bulletin and guest info packet. Call Christian bookstores in the area, they usually know which churches are healthy and growing and have college ministries. Narrow the field and call a few youth pastors and ask to talk for a couple minutes. (Beware; those that are great with parents aren't always the best with students. If they are hard to reach or seem flakey, do not write him or her off—they may be hard to reach because he or she is always with the kids). Don't force a meeting but instead get the information on when the college group meets and give the info to your student. It is even better if your student does all this work! If he or she is 18, and going away to school, a list of churches from the phone book might seem a little overwhelming but a handful of info packets or business cards of youth pastors seems less daunting. Encourage your college student to try several, to talk with those in the upper classes or in parachurch groups at the college. By surveying their peers one or two churches will rise to the surface as great churches for young people. Keep in mind that some college students prefer smaller congregations where they can serve and be a part of family rather than a mega church. There is no one right way, rather offer resources so your child can find the best fit for him or herself.
Adapted from Got Teens? By Pam Farrel and Jill Savage
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